Bouncing Back Now Guest-Bill Gladwell 12-01-2010 – As the special guest on the Bouncing Back Now show on the Real Coaching Radio TV Network, Mr. Bill Gladwell intrigued viewers as a famous hypnotist, entrepreneur, entertainer, dating mentor, and author. His new book is entitled: “In the House of Ideas.” Bill captivated listeners with his interesting perspectives on relationships and shared his motto: Helping you make changes that will set in motion a new life.

The Takeaway Message

How to Be Authentic in a Relationship? – Gladwell’s key message to men and women alike is “to be authentic, be real, be genuine, and to live an interesting life”. As a dating mentor primarily for men, Gladwell advised that “you first take stock of who you are and who you want to be. You can continually work on yourself in background while you set out to clarify what you are looking for in a love interest. Take the time to write down what you want in a potential mate including: appearance, attitude, communications style, activities, and other important dimensions so that you have a good picture in your mind.”

Gladwell continued: “This picture can then be a frame of reference for when you meet new people to quickly assess whether there is a potential opportunity for a good relationship. Having a prepared list is helpful to deciding at the outset that some people clearly do not meet your criteria; this saves a lot of time and energy. Otherwise, you might just pay attention to those who pay attention to you.”

What to Say on the First Date

Gladwell recommended that: “Everyone can first work on yourself – set a goal – make the changes needed in you. Then go out, have fun, and live your life. While you are busy, you just might encounter a good partner for your next relationship – without looking.”

According to Gladwell, the first date can be fun — or not. “Maintaining a positive attitude – just to meet and enjoy a new person and to see what happens is the best approach – with no pressure. Rely on your intuition for guidance. Among the conversation topics to avoid on a first date are: your ex-spouse, deceased pet, nagging health issues, child custody fights, and troubles at work.”

Gladwell cited good conversation topics on a first date as “your interests in books, music, and movies, your favorite restaurant, hobbies, and sports. And remember to ask them questions and to actually listen to their answers. If their answers don’t align with your questions – run, don’t walk for the door – they could be using a script from a predator dating service.”

Gladwell concluded with sage advice: “Be curious. Have fun and your date might just have fun as well. Then you are well on your way to a potential second date. It could take three dates for you to truly assess whether this is could be the beginning of a new relationship or not; be fair but cautious and withhold your judgment until then.”  For more information: visit Bill’s site

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Donna Marie Thompson, PhD – The Bouncing Back Now Relationship Coach – is a Certified Professional Coach, a Certified NLP Practitioner, and a Master Practitioner of the Energy Leadership Index. Donna Marie is listed as one of America’s Premier Experts in relationships and personal development. She is the host of the “Bouncing Back Now” show on BlogTalkRadio and on the Real Coaching Radio TV network. Donna Marie has made numerous appearances on radio and was a featured guest on the Brian Tracy TV show with affiliates on ABC, CBS, and NBC across the country.

Your Money and Your Mindset 11-29-2010 – How to Acquire Leadership Skills? and What has leadership got to do with becoming wealthy?

Answer: Everything

Leadership, or more importantly good leadership underpins your ability to succeed. As a great leader, you are the inspiration, visionary and literally the soul of your business.

It applies equally across the spectrum should you be the CEO of a multi-national corporation or an individual entrepreneur with a red hot idea.

The most reliable way to creating wealth is to build up a business that turns over significant dollars and selling it as a viable concern or have a business model that can be replicated many times over, then licensing these as franchises.

The caveat here is that your business must provide exemplary value for a service and/or product that is second to none, and that the consumer is willing to pay top dollar for what you offer.

Watch the 15 minute show preview:

I use the example of your toothache and your smiling dentist, Dr Fang. If you had a toothache you’d probably ignore it for as long as it is possible. Show me a person who enjoys sitting in the dentist’s chair with a high speed drill on their teeth and I will show you someone who is flat lying.

However, there will come a time when all the pain killer tablets in your bathroom cabinet will not stop the sharp shooting pain that makes you want to grab a hammer and hit your toes with it because that is the only thing that will take your attention away from your toothache. This usually occurs round about 9 PM on a Sunday evening.

At this stage you will not care if you have to take a second mortgage on your house to have your toothache dealt with. Dr Fang is more than happy to oblige, fixes your toothache and makes the pain go away (for a fee).

Dr Fang knows that toothaches do not occur between the hours of 9-5 on weekdays only. In fact, he/she has noticed that if their dental surgery was open 24 hours a day 7 days a week, there would not be a shortage of patients in their waiting room. Because Dr Fang cannot be at more than one place at a time, they hire other dentists and support staff to replicate their service across town or even the country.

Their secret weapon is that they are able to leverage their time. Another equally important component is that they aim for staff members to have the same passion and work ethic.

If you are a heart centered businessperson, not only will you be looking at a bottom line of increased profits or revenue, but as importantly, that increased productivity has not come at the expense of your employees’ well being. Put yourself in Dr Fang’s shoes and ask yourself, how do I get my staff to share my big picture goals and visions for my business?

Here’s where effective, strong and good leadership becomes vital to a business not only surviving but thriving, GFC or no GFC.

Just reiterating, as a great leader, you are the inspiration, visionary and literally the soul of your business. Essentially, leadership is firstly knowing yourself (and being wholly comfortable and accepting of who you are).

Secondly having a clear vision of what your (business) goals are.

Thirdly, it is being able to clearly communicate this vision to your staff and getting total buy in from them. They have to do this voluntarily or else it will not work (think Captain Bligh and the mutiny on the HMS Bounty).

This includes building trust, getting your workers to function as a cohesive unit and motivating them to perform at their highest level, and to do so on a consistent basis.

Impossible, you say?

Not if you are an emotionally intelligent leader.

People are not motivated by money as much as feeling that their contribution is worthwhile and publicly acknowledged.

More on this in my next post; until then

Yours in health, wealth and happiness

Germs are everywhere – There is an estimated five nonillion (5×10 to the power of 30) bacteria alive and thriving on the Earth today according to an article on ! Yikes!! They far outnumber plant and human life on this planet.

We know there are “good” and “bad” bacteria. E Coli and the like are bad and then there are viruses as well! We are continually surrounded by microbes. We can never be “germ-free” no matter how hard we try. Germs are everywhere. And we wouldn’t want to because the good news is that the majority of bacteria are “friendly.” They help recycle nutrients; they are needed for digestion of our food, create a natural form of antibiotic in our guts, enhance our immune systems, increase our ability to synthesize B vitamins and to absorb other nutrients and more! However, it is when the bad outnumber the good that problems begin.

Since we are pretty much surrounded with all types of bacteria and viruses and we are particularly vulnerable at this time of year, I thought it would be interesting to know what some of the most germ-laden surfaces are and how you can keep yourself and your family healthy inspite of them.

So here are some facts about these germs we co-exist with daily: Each square centimeter of skin alone harbors about 100,000 bacteria. And a single sneeze can spray droplets infested with bacteria and viruses as far as 3 feet away. Different surfaces can allow the bacteria to live from just a few hours to several days, or even months.

The least favorable type of surface for bacteria to live on is a hard, nonporous surface such as a countertop, tile floor, or glass. Cold and flu viruses can survive on dry surfaces for more than 48 hours, while some bacteria, such as E. coli, can survive on dry surfaces for months on end. Soft, wet surfaces (particularly those with plenty of food) are perfect for bacteria.

Cloth, sponges and carpets that have gotten wet are excellent living places for bacteria because it protects them from exposure to the environment, dry air or sunlight. Money is another surface upon which bacteria can live for quite some time. Paper money is often the worst, but bacteria can even live on coins for several hours as well. Most money is touched by hundreds, or thousands, of people, comes in contact with a variety of surfaces, and is porous, allowing bacteria to move deep inside the fibers to avoid environmental hazards. Money can host bacteria for several weeks at a time, and if used frequently (like $1, $5 and $20 bills) can be re-infected over and over again.

Office computer keyboards are another microbial playground! A study by a UK consumer group tested 33 office keyboards for microbial contamination. From their findings they labeled several as being “health hazardous.” One keyboard had five times as many germs as the same office’s public toilet seats! You should periodically clean your computer keyboard and certainly do not eat near it! Public magazines (especially those in doctor’s offices) and other waiting rooms are another breeding ground for cold and flu germs.

Any magazines in restrooms can also have fecal bacteria (yuk!) If you do read a public magazine, avoid touching your face and always wash your hands or use hand sanitizer after.

If you work out in a gym – be aware! A 2006 study in the Clinical Journal of Sport Medicine found the cold virus on 73% of weight-lifting equipment and on 51% of aerobic equipment. It is suggested that you thoroughly wipe down all equipment after use and avoid touching your face until you’ve washed your hands.

A study found two-thirds of shopping cart handles to be contaminated with fecal bacteria, including E. coli and salmonella, even more so than public toilet seats. Shopping cart handles are excellent transmitters of diarrhea and other potential illnesses, both to adults and to children. Be sure to use the complementary sanitary wipes many grocery stores offer or wipe handles down with your own disinfectant. It goes without saying you should avoid touching your face while shopping but PLEASE don’t let your young child suck on the handle as I’ve seen some do!

The Lord thought physical cleanliness was so important, He outlined specific measures for his people in numerous places in the Bible (see especially Leviticus 11-17). The bottom line is this: Wash your hands more (with plain soap and water) and avoid touching your face. These two universal measures will go further than anything else to keep you healthy and germ-free all year ‘round.